It is difficult to consider moderation in our age of exuberance and super sizing. But, Zen teaches us about moderation and taking the middle path. This practice is life saving and ultimately a more joyful experience. Extremes take their toll in causing us pain and suffering in the long run. It is better to enjoy our lives and reduce suffering through wise choices and moderation.
Take a deep breath; then exhale and consider where you are, and wisely take your next best step.
No reward needed… Just give of yourself and expect nothing in return… that is really a great feeling. Reducing the suffering of others is the highest and most rewarding joy we can have in our lives. If our giving is recognized, that is a wonderful experience, in itself in a new unit of time, particularly if unexpected.
Someone recently mentioned to us that if they are doing their job right, nobody notices. Trust should naturally flow between us, bringing with it an unspoken expectation of performance underlying our relationship. Sometimes, it is only when things go wrong that people speak up. But that is OK… if our intentions were right in the first place.
But, all this lack of expectation of reward, does not relieve us of recognizing the good work of others. There is a real joy in offering meaningful and honest praise to those that are delivering what we need and want.
One of the most important elements within a Zen practice is the critical nature of keeping our commitments. It really should be a priority in our lives, driving our most important directions during a given day.
The subtle breaking of casual commitments is a passive aggressive act against others, and too often the most important people in our lives suffer from our lack of consideration.
Keep your promises. We should all just be and do what we say.